The Wedding Invitation Etiquette Guide

Welcome to the ListLovely Wedding Invitation Etiquette Guide! This comprehensive resource is designed to help you navigate the nuances of addressing your wedding invitations with grace and precision. We lay out examples for every description of guest(s) and show you how to properly format each instance, covering a range of preferences from casual to formal.

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This guide focuses on traditional two-envelope invitations (Outer and Inner). If you choose to use a single envelope, the Outer envelope formatting guidelines are generally recommended. Each example begins with the most formal approach, assuming all guest information (titles, full names, suffixes) is available, followed by more contemporary options.

Married Couple - Same Last Name

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith

Casual: Mr. Michael and Mrs. Jennifer Smith

Inner Envelope

Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

Casual: Michael and Jennifer

Married Couple - Different Last Names

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Miller

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

Formal: Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior and Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Miller

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Casual: Mr. Michael Smith and Mrs. Jennifer Miller

Most Casual: Michael Smith and Jennifer Miller

Inner Envelope

Formal: Mr. Smith and Mrs. Miller

If you are very close with the couple:

Casual: Michael and Jennifer

Unmarried Couple

Notes: The primary difference with this descriptor is that the partners should be split out on a separate line in certain instances.

Primary Title : Miss Jennifer Lynn Miller

Partner Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal:

Line 1: Miss Jennifer Lynn Miller

Line 2: Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

Line 1: Miss Jennifer Miller

Line 2: Mr. Michael Smith

Alternatively, you can list both names on one line:

More Casual: Miss Jennifer Miller and Mr. Michael Smith

Most Casual: Jennifer Miller and Michael Smith

Inner Envelope

More Formal:

Line 1: Miss Miller

Line 2: Mr. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

More Casual: Jennifer and Michael

Single Guest (Without a Plus One)

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

Formal: Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

Casual: Mr. Michael Smith

Inner Envelope

Formal: Mr. Smith

Casual: Michael

Single Guest (With a Plus One)

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

Formal: Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior and guest

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

Casual: Mr. Michael Smith and guest

Inner Envelope

Formal: Mr. Smith and guest

Casual: Michael and guest

Family

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Children: James, Mary, Anna

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith

If the whole family is invited, you may also address just using the last name:

Casual: The Smith Family

Inner Envelope

More Formal:

Line 1: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Line 2: James, Mary, and Anna

More Casual:

Line 1: Michael and Jennifer

Line 2: James, Mary, and Anna

Distinguished Titles

Medical Doctor (one) - Same Last Names

(Married Couple where one person is a doctor)

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Dr. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: Doctor Jennifer Lynn Smith and Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Formal: Doctor Jennifer Smith and Mr. Michael Smith

Most Casual: Dr. Jennifer and Mr. Michael Smith

Inner Envelope

Formal: Doctor and Mr. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

Casual: Jennifer and Michael

Medical Doctor (both) - Same Last Names

(Married Couple where both people are doctors)

Primary Title : Dr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Dr. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: Doctor Michael Alan Smith, junior and Doctor Jennifer Lynn Smith

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Formal: Doctor Michael Smith and Doctor Jennifer Smith

More Casual: Dr. Michael Smith and Dr. Jennifer Smith

Inner Envelope

Standard: The Doctors Smith

Medical Doctor (one) - Different Last Names

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Dr. Jennifer Lynn Miller

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: Doctor Jennifer Lynn Miller and Mr. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Casual: Dr. Jennifer Miller and Mr. Michael Smith

Inner Envelope

Formal: Doctor Miller and Mr. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

Casual: Jennifer and Michael

Lawyer (one) - Same Last Names

(Married Couple where one person is a lawyer)

Primary Title : Mr. Michael Alan Smith, Esquire

Partner Title : Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: Michael Alan Smith, Esquire and Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Smith

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Casual: Michael Smith, Esquire and Mrs. Jennifer Smith

Inner Envelope

More Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

More Casual: Michael and Jennifer

Lawyers (both) - Same Last Names

(Married Couple where both people are lawyers)

Primary Title : Michael Alan Smith, junior, Esquire

Partner Title : Jennifer Lynn Smith, Esquire

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: Michael Alan Smith, junior, Esquire and Jennifer Lynn Smith, Esquire

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Casual: Michael Smith, Esquire and Jennifer Smith, Esquire

Inner Envelope

More Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

If you are very close with the couple:

More Casual: Michael and Jennifer

Judge (one) - Same Last Names

(Married Couple where one person is a judge)

Primary Title : Judge Michael Alan Smith, junior

Partner Title : Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Smith

Outer Envelope (or if using only One Envelope)

More Formal: The Honorable and Mrs. Michael Alan Smith, junior

If you would rather not display full names with suffixes:

More Casual: The Honorable Michael Smith and Mrs. Jennifer Smith

Inner Envelope

Standard: Judge and Mrs. Smith

Other Miscellaneous

For a guest that is a priest, the title “Father” should precede their full name.

Only spell out “Doctor” for a medical doctor. For non-medical doctors, always use the abbreviated “Dr.”